Am trying not to get too specific about my children but one finally agreed to go to therapy. I want that child to select the therapist. I feel like it is important that they have some control over the process. Still much to do to help them--I try to be a good listener and that motivates me to take my medications because I am not as patient without my meds. I have to keep in mind what they have been through when the interactions are rough. Thanks for your concern.