My Support Forums - View Single Post - As a recovering alcoholic bully, I wish I could take all of your pain away

happysobercrafter · Jun 01, 2019 at 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by tecomsin

I don't share about some aspects of my past because of this section of the community guidelines

It's that others that have abused another individual part.

I see most of the posts on PC are about being a victim of abuse but I think it is also common for victims to become abusers at times themselves. And not taking responsibility for one's actions limits the kind of recovery an individual can have because the character defects that drove them to behave that way are not ever addressed.

Instead people remain stuck in perpetual victimhood, when in fact they can also be perpetrators of abuse.

I wouldn't post here about my own experience because I am afraid of getting kicked off pc or being judged, but I admire the courage it takes to admit to being a bully.

@tecomsin

I thank you for your kind words. You know, I didn't even think about my topic not being allowed. I feel so much remorse about how I abused people and am working hard to understand and heal that ugly part of my life. If folks benefit along the way, then I am all for it.

But, I hear you loud and clear. And I agree, I know I was a victim because my family bullied me and bullying is what I learned. And I know, as well as I think you must too, that there is no telling how high the numbers must be of bullies. They aren't only online, in our schools and workplaces. They are everywhere, plus bullying exists in plants and animals.

I read that bullies are raised but I can't help but wonder if there isn't some genetic connection somewhere.