Ian, great letter. You have gift of writing. I really like what your friend said, "I think that the reason we feel unwanted or alone is because we say No to them so much that they just get tired of waiting around for us and stop calling us and trying to invite us to stuff, and include us in things. Really we create our own problem and then blame it on them for us feeling alone and unwanted". Been there, done that. Hard to recover from.

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