I COMPLETELY undderstand what you mean, ennie! I believe you don't need to become cold and impersonal! I COMPLETELY garee with what divine1966 has already wisely said better than I ever could! I'd suggest to listen to her AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN IF YOU CAN AND WANT TO! She always gives SUCH GREAT ADVICE TO EVERYONE LIKE IN THIS CASE! Definitely just be more selective with WHO you decide to let enter in your life! If people approach you and you already don't seem to like them at first glance, the best thing you can do is politely decline any invitations from them! Be kind but FIRM! That's VERY IMPORTANT! You can also make some excuses if you need to, like saying that you alread have to have lunch with someone else or ANYTHING SIMILAR! Just some excuses that you can use if you do NOT want to engage with certain people! Finding GOOD friends is hard but IT'S NOT IMPOSSIBLE! IT CAN BE DONE! I PROMISE YOU ALL OF THAT AS MUCH AS I POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! PLEASE REMEMBER ALL OF THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! I hope you'll be able to find GOOD, TRUSTWORTHY FRIENDS! ThEY ARE THERE! Just keep looking for them! I hope things will get better soon for you! Let us know how things are going for you, ok? WE ALL CARE ABOUT YOU! THAT'S A PROMISE! TAKE GREAT CARE OF YOURSELF! Sending many AWESOME, kind, safe, sweet, warm, wise and WONDERFUL HUGS TO YOU, ENNIE, JUST LIKE YOU ARE! PLEASE BELIEVE THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE AND YOU KNOW THAT AS WELL EVEN IF IT'S DEEP DOWN INSIDE YOU! PLEASE BELIEVE THAT AND REMEMBER THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE!