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Originally Posted by ennie
She approached me at work and "let's eat lunch together" turned into her oversharing to me about her personal problems. This oversharing/ buying my sympathy kind of people keep approaching me, and this is why I feel the need to appear less approachable.
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Approaching you at work and eating lunch together in no shape or form puts coworkers in “friends” category. That’s what I am trying to say.
Perhaps this person is lonely, lonely people do tend to overshare. If you don’t want her to overshare, keep your distance next time. I don’t think you need to be less approachable. Just avoid “intimate” situations with these people.
I have someone at work who tried to tell me details of her terrible marriage. It’s uncomfortable. I don’t stop being friendly with her but I don’t do one-on-one things with her. We aren’t friends. I don’t go out to eat with her.
What I fail to understand is why and how someone you ate lunch once became your friend. I wonder if these people take advantage of you because they sense you place them into close friends category very soon after meeting them and before you even know them well.