You have NO OBLIGATION to go if you don't want to, Emily Fox Seaton, regardless of what other people say! I COMPLETELY AGREE with what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I EVER COULD! Everyone copes with death their own way and there's NOTHING WRONG if you didn't feel particularly sad about that especially if you didn't have a good relationship with him! Just decline the offer if you don't want to go! You have EVERY RIGHT to decide by yourself like you've already wisely said! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, Emily Fox Seaton!