Hello Avocadoo,

thank you for sharing your truth here. Sorry you and your boyfriend are struggling You didn't mention the length of the relationship or how others aspects are going. I'm assuming that you if feel very strongly about being a vegan and you bf does not, there are other issues you both feel quite differently about. Your world views are different?

I think you've already realized that wanting him/him trying to eat vegan around you is untenable. He's not a vegan and you are. You feel very strongly about the issue so it sounds like you two are incompatible for a relationship. I'm not sure how old you are but sometimes when people are younger they think as long as they love their partner very much, everything will work out. Unfortunately, love is not enough. Compatibility is very important. Similar value systems, lifestyles, sexual compatibility etc. And yes, sharing food/eating together is a big part of spending time with a partner. But this isn't just about food right? As a vegan, you'd feel uncomfortable if he wore a leather jacket or leather shoes, right? There would be major implications if you two were to furnish a home together etc. I think ~3 % of people in the U.S. identify as vegans. For many, your lifestyle is going to appear quite extreme so it's not surprising that your bf is struggling with it. Do you want children in the future? Are they going to be vegans with a carnivore father? Have you two discussed that?

Your value system is radically different from your bf's. That doesn't mean you're right and he's wrong or vice versa. Just means that your values and lifestyles don't align. I think if you continue together, you are both going to feel increasingly unhappy.

At this point, I'd encourage you to consider whether you folks should end the relationship. It sounds like in order for you to feel happy with a partner, you probably need to be dating a fellow vegan. Life is short and precious. None of us know how much time we have. Staying in an untenable relationship is not the path to peace and joy for either of you. When we partner, we need to accept the other person as they are...I think you are quite clear that you cannot fully accept him as a carnivore. In your perception, he is committing an immoral act every time he eats. Imagine how that feels for him to be viewed that way by his gf.

I wish you peace, hope, and a bright future