I’ve had an on-going situation that hasn’t yet exploded, but it will. I have long seen it coming and suffered great anxiety over it.

Recently I got an email from a flying monkey requesting money from me to fuel this situation. I’m not going to contribute the money because I am the bad guy no matter what I do and it is only enabling the ‘narcissist?’.

It was really laughable to hear the ‘monkey’ say such a ridiculous reason for why this person must be enabled. I told her it is untrue and I won’t have any part of it.

So I am the bad guy and I am fine with that now. When I bent over backwards for her, I was also the bad guy anyway.

What you described is exactly what these people do. You will never get the love and respect you deserve no matter what you do, so just do what suits you best.