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Old Jun 03, 2019, 03:44 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
I’d say there are always people who share your interests. Even the most unusual interests are shared by someone, jusf have to find those people.

Also in my experience most people are not interested in changing you to please the crowd. What crowd? I think it’s wise to look for friendships and relationships in your own circles, circles of people who fit your standards and are a match. Most people don’t care if someone pleases the crowd or not. We all just choose who we associate with. No need to join crowds. Keep high standards and expectations

What’s the point of it all... good question

In my personal life and in my opinion point of friendships and relationships is that they are enjoyable for me and bring me pleasure and I bring pleasure to those people/groups as well.

I am always puzzled hearing and reading about people having the most upsetting friendships and the most miserable relationships yet sticking around. I could understand that it’s hard to leave bad relationships as often a lot is at stake: kids, finances, shared house, feelings etc so it does take time and people hope things get better. But maintaining friendships that are not enjoyable and bring suffering makes zero sense to me. Life is way too short

I’d say if at the given moment relationships and friendships don’t sound like something you want, it’s perfectly ok to
focus on your career and financial independence. You are still young and there ton of other things you can enjoy in life. When time is right things will happen
Thank you for your thoughtful replies like always, divine. I guess I have found a few friends who share similar interests, otherwise I would have zero friends but these past few years they have been far and few in between. If there's no "crowd" to please, that is encouraging to hear, it's just that I've been in a uni that is known for being very traditional and conservative. It's not always a bad thing, but that mentality seems to have affected the ability to make friends, and I think could be responsible for me developing this menality.

I totally agree about the difficulty to break away from even the most toxic relationships. I guess I'm too positive and have tried too hard to look for the light in lifeless friendships. Thankfully I've already been prioritizing self preservation and the few friendships I have now instead of sacrificing myself to make new friends or mix up my priorities of starting a new career and continuing my current online job.
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