“While it is helpful to learn the differences between these two disorders, at the end of the day, the way a specific person treats you and its impact upon you is usually a better indication of the toxicity present in the relationship than any diagnostic label. If a person is chronically abusive and unwilling to get help to change their abusive behavior, it is important to engage in self-care, seek professional support and consider detaching from the relationship if it is severely affecting your ability to lead a healthy, happy life.”

I like this paragraph at the end of the article.

When I read this article, I think about the actions of my mother and myself. I always give mental examples of the severity of the acts done and things said. For example; the article talks about the rage one has. But it doesn’t discuss if the event that caused the extreme anger in someone wasn’t truly an extremely hurtful act. Wouldn’t a non-disordered person be extremely angry from an abusive act?

So I keep my own behavior in check and don’t allow others to abuse me.