It is hard to show love for other people when we can't even show it ot ourselves, OKbrain! I DO believe that your problemy may hhave to do your lack of confidence and self-esteem! I'd suggest to work on that if you can! Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help! You could learn new things and new ways to cope with your feelings! I believe reaching out to a professional may prove to be REALLY beneficial to both you and your partner! At the very least, you'll be able to show her that you DO love her and that you DO want to improve and to make things better for BOTH OF YOU! Sometimes action speak louder than words and I'm sure she'll apprecciate your effort and she'll understand that you DO love her! Definitely keep working on yourself! All the other GREAT, kind, wise, wonderful posters have already gave you some GREAT, kind, wise and wonderful advice so I won't repeat it too much! Just remember that we'll be here fr you when you need support and that WE WON'T JUDGE YOU! THAT'S A PROMISE! Just try to do your best! That's all we humans can do after all and it's ALWAYS MORE THAN ENOUGH! Sending many kind, safe, sweet, warm and WONDERFUL HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR WIFE, OKBRAIN, JUST LIKE YOU BOTH ARE! PLEASE BOTH BELIEVE THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE AND PLEASE BOTHBELIEVE THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE AND YOU BOTH KNOW THAT EVEN IF IT'S DEEP DOWN INSIDE YOU!