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Originally Posted by OKbrain
It's almost as if I'm being stubborned and resistant now that I'm being asked to do something. In the moments that I should be expressing my feelings and wanting to be affectionate, I generally freeze up and avoid, or maybe eek out the same few nice things that I always come up with.
This is the way I've been through all of my relationships.
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You're likely more self-conscious of your behavior now, which can cause anxiety. And because she outright asked you to compliment her, all compliments moving forward are going to feel forced and awkward, like a chore you have to do in order to win relationship points. You definitely don't want to start seeing the relationship like that.
Maybe you're so uncomfortable with it simply because you've never done it. Charisma is a skill, and it isn't always that easy to learn, especially if you didn't have many opportunities to learn it when growing up; e.g. if your parents rarely complimented each other, were rather reserved, etc. But you can learn it.
However, you did write rather eloquently about her supposed awesomeness, so maybe writing is more your forte when it comes to self-expression. So, like, just write out on a note exactly how you feel about her and why you have trouble expressing this, and then give it to her. With flowers. That's super romantic.
