But I don't need his permission or his blessing to stop being friends with him. When he wrote that it was up to me, it came across self-righteous of him, as though he had to get the last word in. There was no contrition, no apology, no guilt for not showing up and not communicating to me ahead of time. He couldn't have cared less, obviously, that he no-showed on me.

What other way is there, to interpret "It's your choice if you don't want to be friends with me." That is an extremely passive-aggressive statement. At least, that is how I interpreted it. Had he wrote, "I am sorry that you feel that way but I understand why," that would have showed me his acknowledgment of his ****** behavior and how he felt guilty about the way he treated me. But he clearly didn't feel guilty b/c that was not expressed in what he wrote to me in his two texts.