We are constantly discovering our insiders don't understand/grasp that their actions affects the whole. In fact that is only partial true. Recently our one that handles medical stuff & physical reactions went to the doc for fatigue. Lab work showed anemia. But others were still full of pep & energy & on the go. Even refused to slow down & rest. Felt no reason. T tried to explain that *we all share the same blood*. It got everyone to agree to take the medicine. That was the full extent of the understanding. A week later we had another blood test. Another insider went cuz usual one was tired. Luckily, when it came back normal, the doc didn't believe it. Reordered. Improved but not normal. So I say partially true.
When we were dealing in therapy with a self destructive one, it became obvious he had no concept that his actions affected anyone but him. It's a constant issue for us. Little One loves jelly beans. Eats whole bag. Somebody else gets sick. Somebody else is upset by weight gain. Somebody else upset about health etc. No concept.
Some became obsessed about becoming a 'normal', 'singleton', whatever you want to call it, like our T. He patiently answered hundreds of questions. Some felt sorry for him. Others became upset when he verified we'd never be one. Hard to accept. Comparing ourselves to those singletons was hard to give up. Wishing it was different still an issue. We can't be taller or shorter no matter how hard we try or wish. We have to deal with us as we are.