I am not a big fan of d*cksizing pain and suffering, or the deservingness of help to cope or improve. I believe no one should suffer through, stiff upper lip or what not, before s/he deserves to get help. Or can step away from anything, including help, that harms them. And in my experience, denying or minimizing one's pain just comes back to kick you in the teeth later. If you think therapy might help, make a single appointment and ask whether or not you can be helped in the way you want. It's an hour investment and maybe a full fee. Going once doesn't mean you have to sign up for a decade.