I'll start w the question first. How do you make close friends as an adult? Friends that stick. Not fair weather. Not sometimes friends.

And are my expectations for my friends too
high?

I told my friend about a craft show I want to go to, and invited her to go. She texted me and said she is busy this weekend (not a problem for me, I was just a little disappointed, its ok). But the way she worded it: "I hope you can find someone else to go w you." It made me feel really shirty. It struck a nerve. I don't have many close friends I do stuff with. Honestly, I don't know I can say I have ANY close friends. Yes I have friends and we share things w each other. But they are not always around. Sometimes they are never around. I'm sure she meant nothing by it to hurt me. But it hurt.

She is late to our get togethers by 10 to 15 min like 90% of the time. Its annoying as ****. It makes me feel like I don't matter.

I have 3 friends like this, Who border on close but not meeting my expectations, and not always around. All 3 of these friends have bigger social lives than me.

I suppose I need more of a social life. I have been sick lately. Like since early May. And I'm not even sure my friends care. They are busy. With their social lives. I do not feel like I matter to them. It would be nice if they checked in w me. They do not. This one friend that I spoke of above, she is the closest of all the 3, and I feel annoyed by her.

I'm trying. I pm'd someone from church. She did not even bother replying. Maybe I'm trying to befriend the wrong people. It is discouraging.

People are just so casual. Too casual. I went to a usual church group last night. I almost didn't go due to feeling sick. I messaged her to notify, and didn't hear back. I just cannot take this.

My therapist seems to think my expectations are too high but I don't know.

We all need close friends and we all,have emotional needs.