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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
But I don't need his permission or his blessing to stop being friends with him. When he wrote that it was up to me, it came across self-righteous of him, as though he had to get the last word in. There was no contrition, no apology, no guilt for not showing up and not communicating to me ahead of time. He couldn't have cared less, obviously, that he no-showed on me.
What other way is there, to interpret "It's your choice if you don't want to be friends with me." That is an extremely passive-aggressive statement. At least, that is how I interpreted it. Had he wrote, "I am sorry that you feel that way but I understand why," that would have showed me his acknowledgment of his ****** behavior and how he felt guilty about the way he treated me. But he clearly didn't feel guilty b/c that was not expressed in what he wrote to me in his two texts.
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It’s absolutely passive aggressive. No doubt about it. It’s not your perception.
Subtle difference between sincere: “I am sorry, I behaved badly. I wish we could remain friends but I understand that I hurt you too much by my selfish actions.” That would be direct approach. The way he went about is passive aggressive manipulative way. He also managed to play a victim and blame others for the fact that he rudely stands people up! Unbelievable
He didn’t feel guilty because he simply isn’t a nice person. There are some people who simply aren’t nice. They could appear nice initially because they know how to pretend very well, but they show true colors eventually. Luckily this dude show his nature early on and you didn’t get too invested