Thank you SilverTrees! There are a lot of issues from my hubby's past with her --I actually felt sorry for her on her first night with us, as that night shortly after dinner he immediately started talking about how he felt when her and his dad got divorced all those many years ago. I could see she felt uncomfortable but was still trying to be attentive and caring towards him. What could she do now after all, it's all in the past. I always say to him it would be really good for him to talk about these issues with a professional. (As I do too, once a week, due to my own past issues). He just doesn't want to. I've talked about marriage counseling for us as well, but he says he'll NEVER do it. So ... what to do. There are so many backed-up issues.