Sure, I wasn't trying to attack you. It's just that I had an association about myself when reading your statement about how at one point I discovered that indeed, other people have to offer things for me and only then it seems valid to me. When I want something myself then it's not that valid because maybe I'm actually not worth it or maybe my request is somehow wrong and I shouldn't even ask it. The fact that the other person offers it first, is kind of proof that I'm allowed to want it.

It could be totally different with you of course but because you said that it did not occur to you that taking an initiative would be an option then I somehow had this thought that maybe this pattern is wider.