My first and third long term therapists have been male, and I do not feel as comfortable with men but working with them as therapists has been good. They are/were both kind and gentle men with big brains. My second T was a woman who I really adored, I ended therapy thinking I was done (and I was, for 15 years), and I did some very intense s*xuality healing type stuff with her and I'm not sure if I would have been comfortable talking about it with a man. I have a very close relationship now with my male T of 10 years, but I do think it feels different than the closeness I had with my other T. It was harder to leave her than it was to leave my first therapist. I think if my therapist now retires, I'll look for a woman. All other things being equal I think I'd rather have a female T.