This thread idea came from someone telling me that just because someone tells me how I should feel about them, that doesn't mean that they are a bad person.
Um, that's 100% wrong. When someone tells you "it's fine if you don't like me," or tells you how to feel -- that is covert verbal abuse.
Why it's Really Covert Verbal Abuse When Someone is Telling You How You SHOULD Feel - The Good Men Project
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Covert verbal abuse happens when someone tells you how you feel, what you think, or what you need or want. It’s sneaky. You might not see it as abuse… yet. You will soon if you keep reading.
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The other thread I started about immature adults and that guy who no-showed on me, who told me that "it's your choice if you don't want to be friends with me," is why I started this thread.
He tried to verbally abuse me via text and Facebook, after I called him out for no-showing on me, when he told me I was overreacting for being angry that he didn't communicate to me ahead of time that he wasn't going to show up for our coffee date that HE initiated, and when he told me that it was my choice not to be his friend anymore. Those are two examples of his covert verbal abuse.
I think verbal abuse is a real thing, that is DOES indicate that the person who uses it, IS A BAD PERSON, and there is no justification that someone who uses covert verbal abuse is a good person.
I am SO relieved that I blocked that guy from my cellphone and Facebook and ended my connection with him permanently. The question is, how do we recognize covert verbal abuse right away?