My father and law has been dating this woman for about ten years. He seems happy with her but my husband and I hate her. She can be very criticizing, nosey and sometimes just downright rude and obnoxious especially towards me and my husband. She treats my husband and I like we are five (we both have Aspergers and she knows this). One Christmas a few years ago she blasted me for a birthday present I got my nephew (she didn't like it and told me it was too advanced.....I never heard anything from nephew's mom) and screamed at my husband for heny tossing a present that wasn't breakable to a cousin of his. She insulted my job by yelling like a child "Eeewwww, gross!!! Change the subject!"I work in a hospital and while I do try and keep the stories PG rated I was just stunned by her attitude. My husband and I figured since we deal with her at holidays mostly we would grin and bear it. However it is getting worse. She let off on my husband for drinking too much soda in his own house and recent he came home from his nephew's graduation livid at her. She went off on him for not planning ahead or getting tickets for the event or something like that. My husband had actually called his sister a few times before to confirm the date and he did make it on time. Then she was asking him questions about who went to the movies with him as a family member couldn't make it on Facebook. That was the last straw. He finally told his dad that he is not putting up with this behavior from her anymore. I am proud of him but a bit worried that his dad may choose her side over his sons. I have told my husband that he did the right thing but I'm worried that his dad and the gf will be mad at us for telling on her. We don't expect his dad to dump this woman we just want to make it clear that we don't like her behavior and that we will not pit up with it anymore. Any advice to following through or standing our grounds would be wonderful. Thanks.