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Jun 06, 2019, 04:38 PM
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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
I'm shocked and disappointed that you defend this scumbag the way that you do.
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I'm curious as to why you think I'm defending him, especially since I agreed with you that his behavior was unacceptable, regardless of his reasons, and that you should avoid him.
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
So, IMHO, it's important to step back and think about this person's behavior and if this person is genuinely being defensive, OR, is this person manipulating you.
If someone has been manipulated by a toxic person for a lengthy time, that person can at times be immature in their responses because they are still carrying what can be a lot of narcissistic toxic messages in them where they are still working on actually feeling "free" to finally express themselves in a normal healthy way. So, just because a person doesn't react the way you expect or want, it doesn't always mean they are a bad person, instead it can actually mean they are themselves struggling with some victim mentality issues and are not able yet to respond in a healthier way.
One thing you learn as you experience life, is there is no such thing as "the perfect person". An imperfect person doesn't mean that person is a narcissist covert or otherwise.
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I agree. In fact, I'd say this is true for the majority of manipulative people. To be clear, though, I wouldn't excuse their behavior for this reason, and would still hold them accountable. It's the only way they'll ever change, if they can change.
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