I hope your FIL will stick up for you guys. I asked my cousin to help me with his mother. Sure enough, at the next funeral, she kept asking me why my brother wasnt there. Finally my cousin said to her, "She said she called him! Thats all she can do!" Then she shut up. But it happens every time. She acts like shes paying special attention to you, but really she is picking on you and making you uncomfortable. Putting you on the spot. Its very rude. Get away if you can! My aunt usually waits until she has me trapped in a seat or has grabbed me by the arm.