Aw DazedandConfused. I am so sorry you are feeling this way

You know I've personally not experienced an attachment to someone about to get married but I can imagine that news hit you on a very deep level. You're in shock...try not to evaluate your feelings/reaction too much right now. Let the feelings flow. Let the feelings be what they will for a while. The shock will fade in time and then you can start working through your thoughts.

You are a lovely, intelligent fella with a bright future ahead! You have thoughts telling you differently right now but you don't have to believe them. Listen to your PC friends instead!

I wonder if you would call a hypothetical guy in your exact situation "unlovable and not worthy of any human contact?" If you would not look him in the eye, after he told you about his broken heart, and say that to him...I wonder what you would tell him instead?

I have no problem sending love your way. Nothing unsafe or uncomfortable. Just some love from one human to another...because we are all in this crazy gig we call Life together! So from ol' Silver Trees to you Dazed and Confused, here's some love because you ARE lovable!!!

Now do something nice for yourself, big or small, because you deserve it.