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Old Jun 08, 2019, 02:15 AM
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You say you are not very emotional. You could think of it as you are like Spock amongst the human crew on the Starship Enterprise. Kirk liked and accepted Spock because he was useful, moral and had the back of his friend Kirk and the Starship Enterprise. Kirk found Spock's differences interesting, he would smile and consider Spock's opinion even when they did not agree. Spock tried to understand what made human's "tick". McCoy never totally accepted Spock. McCoy sometimes made snide comments about Spock but they still managed to work together. McCoy was more close minded than Kirk. Maybe you need to figure out who the Kirks, McCoys and other types are in your life. Is this a helpful comparison?

I am not sure that being a psychopath would automatically mean you are a bad person. It would depend on a person's behavior and morality from my POV. Also, be careful about letting a single test or a few people define you. Everyone is much more complex than that. I would like to think we all have the ability to adapt and grow. It sounds like that is what you are working on. I wonder if SilverTrees' 3000 Questions thread on the depression forum would be helpful? It is good to get feedback from others but then we need to "tune in" to what is going on internally to see where we fall on the human spectrum. Some of what we know about ourselves can be kept private. I sometimes share too much. Learning to feel like I can keep things private is something I am still working on. It is not wrong to choose what we want to share.

Perhaps you need to find a friend who has the ability to accept you. I realize that finding friends we connect to is not always easy.

Can you sense other's emotions? If not, they say that learning to read body language can be helpful.

I tend to use my gut feelings (about whether someone genuinely likes me) to determine whether or not I can trust others (I am not always right but much of the time I am). I operate very intuitively sometimes and can't imagine how I would navigate the would without my intuitive sensability (perhaps this is emotional IQ?)

There must be a way you can harness and compensate for not being very emotional. My strengths can be my "Achile's heel" and vice versa. You probably first need to learn acceptance and learn how to find ways to use this as a strength. Sometimes being emotional clouds my judgement resulting in a state of panic or paralysis. I am guessing you are free of panic attacks and anxiety.

Last edited by TunedOut; Jun 08, 2019 at 03:54 AM.