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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
His miraculously changing shows you he knows right from wrong and is completely capable of self control.
I’m not one to talk because I’ve been gaslighted by a husband and he repeatedly does a similar dynamic with me and acts like it’s never happened before, acts like he doesn’t recognize we’ve had this exact same fight countless times!
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I feel for you, Tisha, I really do.
I now understand what it's like to be in a marriage, feeling committed and wanting it to work out and to work on it. I now get it. It's far different than just being a relationship with no commitment. I take marriage vows very seriously... and I made that step, as did you.
I know you're in couples therapy. I hope it's helping. That would be most maddening to me... the gaslighting. I give you a lot of credit for continuing to work on it and for continuing to be committed.
And yes, my husband DOES know the difference between right and wrong. He held himself together for three months just before the wedding, with NO blowups and zero fighting. My therapist says that was so that he could ensure that he had me. Then the blowups started again.
GRRRRR.