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Originally Posted by golden_eve
I feel for you, Tisha, I really do. 
I now understand what it's like to be in a marriage, feeling committed and wanting it to work out and to work on it. I now get it. It's far different than just being a relationship with no commitment. I take marriage vows very seriously... and I made that step, as did you.
I know you're in couples therapy. I hope it's helping. That would be most maddening to me... the gaslighting. I give you a lot of credit for continuing to work on it and for continuing to be committed.
And yes, my husband DOES know the difference between right and wrong. He held himself together for three months just before the wedding, with NO blowups and zero fighting. My therapist says that was so that he could ensure that he had me. Then the blowups started again.
GRRRRR. |
When he stopped during that three month period, was it also sudden like what happened recently? Or was it a gradual decline until he eventually stopped?
Im curious as to why he suddenly stopped recently. Did you say something that you hadn't said before, like you telling him you can't continue like this any longer?
I also wonder what his reaction would be if you actually asked him why, as well as why he doesn't want to seek proffessional help as another poster pointed out. His response could be telling, but even if he responds apprioproately, i'd still be cautious. Because,
If the first time was also a sudden change, and you saying something with more gravity is what had him stop this time around, then your therapist may be onto something.