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Originally Posted by SilverTrees
She screams, shouts, calls names ("evil", "cold b****", "unfeeling"), triangulates, manipulates....never accepts responsibility, never says sorry. She holds grudges for trivial issues (really trivial) for years and years. At this point I think she may be living with an undiagnosed personality disorder.
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Yikes! That must be a very difficult relationship to have!
I think I am hypersensitive over certain ways I am made to feel unloved. Now I realize love is a kind of gray emotion. So people who are pretty hurtful generally do love you, even though they can be pretty cruel. (I really have a hard time believing this but this appears to be the case).
But my reaction is to get upset. My mood drops. I lose my appetite. I can’t fight back tears. I don’t attack anyone calling them evil. They aren’t evil. Had you done something evil? I hope for love, reassurance, empathy. But I never get that from them. Instead they get defensive and dislike me more for my being a moody crybaby. This pushes me down farther to hate myself in the moment.
This sounds like Borderline, I know.
Does the borderline turn it inward while the narcissist turn it outward? This is my personal theory.