Yes, this is very much about how partners handle stress and take things out on each other.

There were a few times my husband lashed out at me, raising his voice because he was so stressed over something else and I just let that roll off me. It didn’t bother me at all. It was like he was blowing off steam over something silly. But it was this one issue where he is neglectful which has done me in! Everyone acts and reacts to things differently.

Are there really marriages where neither one is ever a jerk to the other? I’ve never known anyone in my world like that. Hats off to all who are always nice.

Our marriage t is a nice guy, but totally ineffective. I’ve decided to just say everything is fine. He only wants to see us every few weeks anyway.

What has helped is that I have changed my attitude and behavior and accepted it is what it is. I still have my triggers and emotional issue, but am trying to keep it in check.

One t told me, ‘you would have never been happy with anyone’. That’s food for thought, huh?