Current T and I are the same gender. Hugs last about 3 seconds and are a medium level of tightness — tighter than “fake” social hugs, but not tight enough for me to consider them emotionally intense. Arms stay on the upper torso, and I tend to slightly rest my head on her shoulder. I haven’t really thought about it before because they just seem natural, but I guess our upper bodies touch and our lower bodies are close but don’t touch. I don’t think they would ever start to make me feel uncomfortable. I guess maybe if she grabbed my @s$ or something, but honestly I’d just be more surprised/perplexed than uncomfortable because it would be so randomly unexpected, lol.