The OP reminded me of my experience with my first T a bit. Things were going okay for a while and when I started questioning his actions and approaches, it all went downhill fast. He was completely unwilling to take responsibility for his acts and just threw everything back onto me, with ridiculous and completely unfounded interpretations and projections. I was not interested in paying for therapy about the therapy so I ended it after a bit less than a year. I found that the T and I were just very incompatible and the approach (it was psychoanalytic) was also not useful for me. So I think it may be that you are acting out some interesting and informative patterns that are helpful to understand but perhaps also that you are just frustrated about something that is not helpful and causes extra, unnecessary frustrations. Sometimes it is not easy to tell these two scenarios apart but, I think, is important. What you describe in the OP sounds quite defensive and manipulative at the minimum. That can actually happen when you probe into something they are insecure about, it is common human behavior and I don't think we can say Ts are exempt.