Thanks, Xynes! Yes, I do use this forum in the way you suggest. There are some similarities with the dynamic you had - for instance her 'hypothesis' really seems neither here nor there. And while I am fairly retarded in some areas (eg.spatial intelligence), I am fairly gifted in another (verbal) and there might be some mismatch here. Personality wise and regarding values though we resonate quite strongly, so it's less clear-cut than it was with yours!

I would totally understand if you have had enough of this conversation but I am curious about what you found manipulative in her interactions...