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Originally Posted by ennie
I am scared of being too firm and too harsh because I feel like that will "validate" in their minds about her view of me as a "cold" person.
But then there comes a point where my peace of mind is more important than what they think...so yes, I will need to come up with the guts be more firm next time.
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Is it possible to contact her once, making clear that you are not punishing her, but need no contact for reasons of personal peace? After that, you can be as firm as you want, and know your behaviour is totally correct and can not be misconstrued by her or misjudged as too harsh by others.