She is no longer in my life. I live far away and we don't talk to each other unless there is a reason I go back. Generally I avoid that for my own well-being. I just included as an example of how sensitivity of any sort is fine in my opinion. But behaving that way is not okay.

I'll assume asking if I did something evil was just a bad joke. No I am not evil and do not do evil things. I am a decent human being who happened to grow up in a highly dysfunctional family. I did therapy to move forward in life. My siblings did not and apparently think such behavior is okay. Except one sibling, she is fair-minded and kind and we maintain some level of distant but respectful relationship.