How do you deal with a former abuser who:

Mislabels "no contact" as "silent treatment"

and

"Consequences" as "punishment"?

When someone has repeatedly violated your boundaries and you are forced to distance yourself as part of consequences (because otherwise she won't stop), and eventually go no contact for your own peace of mind;

and then she turns around and say that you are punishing her with silent treatment;

How do you "let go" emotionally and accept the fact that she is always going to think whatever she wants to think?

It's easier said than done, you know.