(ETA) Sorry about the way this is formatted: I put comments in between your quote - and one after - which doesn't seem to have worked very well!
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Originally Posted by missbella
I would have felt criticized and invalidated had a therapist spoke to me as you described in your initial post. First, it's absurd assuming that a client jumping topics is a grand scheme to undermine therapy."
I don't know WHAT she meant by the comment but I can't think of a benign interpretation of it - even though insisted that she DIDN'T think I had planned it in any way.
'My therapist deftly deflected my concerns by denying all responsibility for his behavior. He blamed the conflicts on my transference.
Ruptures are particularly inequitable if the therapist is staunch in his or her blamelessness.'
In this case there is some foundation as I often feel disapproved of, or in the dog box without good reason and there has always been some likelihood of maternal transference. But to think that there is no foundation here is just bizarre.
'I think these occasions require holding one's reality regardless of how an ascribed "authority" interprets events.
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Agree with this. I did send her the reasons I was unhappy with how therapy had been going. A very summarised OP. Her response was that she 'was not agreeable to discussing it in text message. That it is clearly unresolved for me and I should come in to discuss it when well enough. I replied that I would uber there tomorrow if well enough.
However...I am concerned - I don't want to REDO this particular dance and her message didn't suggest any kind/fair way of 'resolving' it. On the other hand she has really helped me for 2 years so it feels like I should go at least once more
