Thank you Cool,
After I vented and was upset for a bit I got over it. I realized I was hurt and sad, missing T. I have been irritable all weekend and it always revolved around things not going as planned or I wanted. EMDR T is great and we are accomplishing a lot but sometimes I have to remind myself she is not T. I dont want her to be and she has said repeatedly that she will never try to be her.
Grief is complicated and sucks, therapy and hard and complicates