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Originally Posted by Elio
Like fantasies, they are something that is completely mine, private, owned, ... and so on. I often feel that if I share some of these things then they are no longer mine, that they can be twisted, altered, contaminated/polluted by someone else's interpretations, conclusions, wishes, and desires.
Interesting that you use your sharing or withholding as a power move. I don't think that is why I do it but like I said, there is a part of me that feels like they are mine and to share them means I lose them (or maybe a part of me) in some way.
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I have felt exactly the same way - that if I share something private then I loose it. It will be transformed into something I cannot recognise anymore and thus it's not mine anymore. Early in my therapy I told my T a fantasy I used for masturbation. He said something that completely disguised its non-sexual nature and later on I could not use it anymore. Needless to say, I haven't told him any such fantasies since ...
So I guess in addition to power move there's that too.