Thanks for responding to my thread, divine1966, I appreciate your support.
I emailed my instructor tonight that I was not going to be in class. I just had to deal with an emergency at the facility where my mother is a new resident, and it happened around the time my class was supposed to start. So, I emailed my instructor and then emailed my program director, to ask both for an extension.
My hope is that the program director will officially grant me the extension -- at least until mid-July so that I can complete the assignments and pass the course. Otherwise, I'm effed, as they say.
I like your suggestion regarding the nosy neighbor, who has keys to everyone's apartments b/c the building caretaker gave her access. I did email the corporate office to notify them because I DONT trust the caretaker. He knows she's overbearing already, so sharing my concerns with him, would have been a waste of time. Hopefully, once the corporate rental office knows, they'll deal with that very unethical situation at my mother's 55+ building.
Ironically, my instructor writes grants for homeless shelters. So, technically I could tell her "Hey, I'm about to be homeless, got any suggestions for me?" and see if she can give me resources.
The women shelters in my city are sub par but they do exist. Only one has dorm-like bedrooms whereas the rest of the women shelters here have twin bed/cot like setups in large open-aired rooms which sounds frightening to me, but may be something I have to do, like many other women who are in my situation (no job, no income).
It's not like my grad school refund was enormous and I did spent about $2K to pay off some high debts in collections, that prospective landlords see when they run credit checks on prospective tenants. So, I surmised if I paid off the 'big debts' today, that may play out in my favor when I apply to be a tenant somewhere, or with a roommate. I'm leary of roommate situations only because the last roommate I lived with (she owned the house) was an alcoholic. So, she would come down stairs to her basement at night, sloshed 3-sheets to the wind, and yell my name until I woke up, scared of what was happening, only to have to listen to her drunkenly regale me of her day. This happened for 3 months straight until I moved out. That was a few years ago, but I am very scared to live with a complete stranger, although I'm no spring chicken. I love the tv shows about roommates, but that's TV, not real life.
Worse comes to worse, I"ll try to live in a cheap motel for a month until the fall semester starts, and I receive another tuition refund. I can't live in the dorm b/c the dorm cost would take all of my fall refund and if I don't have a job by August, I'd have no money to live on. And I don't qualify for work-study since I"m a grad student. But I will go to the career center there this week to find out what my options are, with resume help.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
My suggestion about school is go see your advisor and ask for extension of your class due to being a care giver for your mother. Yes ask for formal permission. Ton of people ask for extensions due to health or family concerns.
As about woman who has the key, I’d inform apartment management and possibly try to find who are the owners of the property and inform them that unauthorized party has the keys. She should not have keys if she isn’t a landlord. Perhaps I’d even get police involved. I’d not explain anything to her, she doesn’t have legal power over you.
I don’t know about living arrangement but I’d probably try to find roommates. Yes maybe motel with weekly rates is an option if you only have 3 weeks left.. All while you are looking for roommates. Not sure what it all costs, maybe weekly rates aren’t bad. . Would you qualify for subsidized housing? From my understanding the fastest way to get subsidized housing is go to a shelter. Maybe other people have better advice re living arrangements.
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