i understand that.. just recently my T was saying how he had planned to be away this one day but now wasn't going to be however his schedule had filled up and MY time slot was taken. i protested and he launched into his routine of how this wasn't anything about not wanting to see *me* etc etc... which i have to say is often required with me... but he was really being sincere and i just watched him for a moment or two and then this big grin broke across my face.. i said "this is amusing" and gestured to mean the squirming he seemed to be doing to make me feel like he hadn't deliberately penciled me out.

ha... poor guy

hmm... do you suppose that maybe she is nudging you before you feel comfortable? i have said that to T a few times. He says he never really knows until he does push.. and then he can see if it's too much or not.. and i sometimes have to say that i need to feel good about accomplishing something before i move again, while he likes to keep the ball rolling. Just wondering