Do I ever know this situation all too well. I actually had two weddings planned. I nixed the first one on account the planning being insisted upon by my future mother-in-law got ridiculously out of hand. By the time the numbers reached in excess of 415 I put my foot down and cancelled the damn thing. Most of those people represented her friends and family - people I had never met. It was all about appearances to her and out-doing everyone else. So, with her being unmoveable in her insistence about all of her must-have and must-do plans, I dropped the whole thing entirely. My fiance and I had to say we were calling it off in order for her to realise it was off. We then planned and carried out a small evening wedding with a social following that maybe had two dozen guests. The woman fumed at what she considered to be an embarassment. Too bad.

I guess what I am saying is never do something someone else is pressuring you to do and that goes for inviting including other people in those things important to you. Yeah I mentioned invite everyone or no one but there are times such as above that that becomes ridiculous.