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Originally Posted by Lostin
I need some relationship advice. I'm in a relationship that I know is toxic, but I feel like I can't leave because I feel like she is the only person that would want to have a relationship with me, and because I'm worried about her hurting herself if I try to leave her. I'm at a point where I don't if I can save my relationship, but I want to still try to save it ,but I just can't deal with everything going on in my relationship. I can't deal with her using drugs again. I can't deal with her lying to me, and manipulating me. I can't deal with managing my mental health, and hers. I just don't know what to do anymore. I just need any advice you can give me.
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First reason to stay because you feel like there will be no one else is basically settling for what you have even though it's not good. Do you really think that this is a solid reason to stay with someone? It's not that you think she's great for you or you're great for each other but fear of being alone. Wrong reason #1
Reason 2, that you're worried that she'll hurt herself - it's not a good reason either. You should be in a relationship with someone capable of being independent of you and your staying due to risk of her harming herself is pretty much like that is you being hostage to that.
so far in your post you have not mentioned anything alludes to you being with this person because you are happy or committed to her but seem more entwined in it feeling obligated and trapped. Problem is it's hard to get out of that thinking even if you know it's bad but all the more reason you should.
What about this relationship is good, that are reasons that make you want to stay - is there anything? something to ask yourself.