If you already feel that you need to act in a certain manner with her as to not scare her away, it’s somewhat alarming. The only way relationship can work in a long run and in a healthy way is if people are 100% themselves. So if you can be yourself and things will go well then you’ll go from there. If you’ll feel you need to be pretend or walk on egg shells, then it’s likely won’t work.

Personally I am somewhat surprised she wants to stay in your house and sleep in your bed without ever meeting you before. Doesn’t she have a kid? She doesn’t worry about her safety? It would make more sense to stay in a hotel at least first few days.

There was someone on this site awhile ago who went to meet a man the first time across the country and stayed in his house and slept in his bed, it ended up in a violent and dangerous situation plus she contracted STD from him and then was stalked by his girlfriend, he wasn’t even single. This is dangerous. On both accounts.

Please be safe