That's why wedding registries, bridal showers, and baby showers bother me. Commercialism taking over. Spending money on others is mandated. When I got married, I didn't have a registry or a shower and everyone thought I was crazy....I wanted folks' company...not their money. I was even invited to one wedding where the invitation said: "no gifts please, money would be preferred." Tacky to the nth! My former therapist (a wife and mother) is the only woman I've met who agreed with me: "Oh yes, the wedding industry in the U.S. is disgusting...it has nothing to do with love or marriage."