Exactly! We had a thing at work once....our boss was pregnant and a highly sycophantic co-worker wanted us all to buy baby gifts for her for a work-type baby shower. Now, in some situations that might be just fine. But our boss was very disrespectful to all of us....a miserable control-freak. Although I wished her and her baby well, I had no desire to spend some of my hard-earned money buying her a gift. So I respectfully did not participate. I didn't make a show of it and the boss didn't even notice but I received plenty of judgment from a few colleagues. Colleagues who, interestingly, complained about our boss every day at work both during her pregnancy and afterward. So the whole thing was very odd to me. Now, if they wanted to buy her gifts, that is no problem....I respect other people's choices. And I personally did not want to and that was my choice. I don't give gifts to people I do not respect. it's fairly simple. And it annoyed me that I had to deal with such silly "shower" antics in a professional setting as well as in my social life.