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Old Jun 13, 2019, 02:07 AM
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Originally Posted by BirdDancer View Post
I'm angry at my husband! As a good wife, I checked with him about an idea to have my dad, brother, sister, and maybe nephew over this weekend for Father's Day. As usual, he vetoed the idea. He never thinks we have enough room FOR 3 or 4 of my closest family members to come for one meal and then go home?!?!?! That is ridiculous! We have had his Czech friends and relatives many times. It was only about two years ago that we had his old friend's husband and two daughters over for 7 days in a row, with them sleeping in our house and me cooking all of their meals. They even wanted sandwiches to take with them for their NYC day trips. Then we've had his eldest sister, her husband, and their two adult children once for about five days over a Christmas holiday. Not enough room? We even had a huge Christmas tree up in our living room and it was cold as heck outside without the option to go on our deck, like there is now. Not enough room? And my siblings are a lot friendlier than his eldest sister, her husband, and their adult children who criticize all of the time. That old friend's husband wasn't that pleasant, either, and his daughters refused to speak. Instead, he tells me "Invite your dad only, or with your brother. Have your sister and nephew some other time." This seems so mean, to me. You know that my sister finds out that I have my dad and brother over frequently without her being invited. She doesn't say anything, but I think that's crumby of us.

I love my husband, but he can sometimes be controlling. If he doesn't give on this, I will refuse to host any more of his Czech friends and family beyond 1 guest. It was only last summer that we had one of his other Czech nephews and his Brazilian girlfriend for about six days, and at that time I was having severe toothaches that eventually led to root canals in both of my front top teeth. Luckily, they are rather pleasant people, but didn't exactly offer to help with any dishes, or anything else. I cooked a lot of nice dinners for all of these Czechs. All I said I wanted for this weekend were some hamburgers, hot dogs and kielbasa on the grill with simple side salads. Unlike his guests, my family members bring side dishes and dessert.


Well that’s a bunch of bullshyt. One sided as can be. Can you bring it up again in more of a .....

“ I know you said x but I don’t agree that we don’t have room, as proof in the past I have made many of your family and friends welcome and that was for days and I cooked and cleaned it all unlike what I want to do that will only be for a day. I do not know how much longer my father is going to be alive and I want my family all together just Incase this could be our last time”

Yes I would most defiantly play the family card ( and rightfully so) as your father isn’t healthy , of course anything could happen to anyone at any given time. But still.....

For myself if he didn’t come around since I would be doing all the cooking and clean up I’d just plan it anyway and if he can’t be pleasant he can go away for the day or stay in the bedroom by himself.

I hope he can see how lopsided his thinking is and just be happy that it’s a day spent with family.

I hope you can get this sorted out somehow
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