I was in deep pain for a long time about something because I didn't realize or want to admit to myself what was going on. I was in denial. I had to get help to sort it out (therapy and talking on here and to others). It still hurts now that I am facing it in a more head on way but not as much. Confrontation is hard but it may have to be done. Sometimes our pain is giving us an important message.

I did not resolve the issue either--I asked others to help and talked to the person about how I felt. I set brand new boundaries based on what I learned from the people who helped me. It took me years to get to the point I am now which is that I now feel differently about the person. Sometimes our relationships change and we don't know how to adjust to it.

But yes, because it can take so long to accept some things--yes to distraction, medication, and meditation.