A few months after I met my T, I happened to ask if he had a pet. It seemed like no big deal to me, but it related to a story I was about to tell. Being relatively new to therapy at that point, I was really taken aback by his reluctance to answer what seemed like a simple, innocent question. Several sessions later when I asked again he did tell me, but as a result I have been much more cautious about the questions I ask. I’m aware that I have to be willing to hear no or to play twenty questions and possibly still not get the answer.