Jp you stated you are not here for mental health support. this has me wondering why you signed up on psych central wondering if you were looking for something else.

psych central is a mental health support website, everything on it is for mental health...

examples of what you will find here on psych central...

the community area (where everyone posts on all these message boards called forums)

this is where people with mental disorders post about their own mental disorder problems, then others post back to them sharing whether they also have that problem and how their own psychiatrists and therapists and medical doctors are helping them with their mental disorder....

since you are a member of psych central this means ...

you are a person with a mental disorder and would like help in understanding your problems, and someone to listen to your problems in a non professional way. (in other words getting support for you and your mental problems)

OR

you are someone who has a family member or friend with a mental disorder and are looking for help in understanding your family or friends mental problems (this is also called getting mental health support here)

Psych central is ..........not.........a dating or relationships website. when people here post in the relationships forum its because they want non professional mental health support because their or their loved ones mental disorder is causing problems in their relationships.

We are not here to judge you, we are not here to tell you to break up with the dude. we are trying to figure out what you would like from us in the way of mental health support since this is an online mental health support group and website.

since this is an online mental health support group some of us have posted to you the red flags that we see in the posts that you, yourself have posted to us. you were the one that asked us what was going on, in your very first post in this thread.

since this is an online mental health support group we are posting from the mental health support frame of mind. we are showing you things in your post that would cause ourselves to become worried for your mental well being.

since you dont want our mental health support that psych central is for we are now wondering why you have posted this and asked for our help in figuring things out.

obviously you dont feel this is causing you any mental problems (anxiety, depression, PTSD, bipolar problems, Schozphrenic problems, psychosis problems, dissociative problems... all that kinds of stuff that is what this site is for)

so now Im asking you, why did you sign up for psych central if you were not looking for mental health support and what can we do to help you in the frame of what this site is for.

suggestion maybe you can check out all the different mental health forums here and get an idea of what this site is for and then decide first why you posted this thread and then how we offer you non professional mental health support based on how dating this person may be affecting your mental health. if there isnt anything then to me this whole thread is probably off topic since this site is for getting and giving non professional mental health support, just like if you joined a support group in your home town on some mental disorder.